Becoming More YOU, Living from Soul

7 Signs You're Choosing from Your Shield, Rather Than Soul

For Your Mastery, Joy, and Purpose

As you navigate your daily choices — it’s natural to have different degrees of awareness as you make them. Some are within your conscious awareness and some are not. It is the unrecognized, unexamined choices that we will explore today.

What is an unexamined choice?

An unexamined choice, in the way it’s used here, is one that’s made automatically, from your conclusions, that influence what you will and will not do, be, and have in your present life experiences. Your conclusions about how life works, what is hard or easy, how you see yourself and others, and what you expect to happen — these unexamined choices play in the background, and often go unnoticed.

Yet, to live a fulfilling, on-purpose life ...

you must be willing to bring these automatic assumptions into your awareness, so you can choose if you really want to continue to live from them. Consider the meaning behind the words; “an unexamined life is not worth living” credited to Socrates.

If one does not consider, and consciously choose her values, priorities, what she wants to believe, and how she wants to live her life … then she is, in fact, living according to assumptions and conclusions sometimes made in haste, or that are not her own.

So, in this sense, an unexamined life means that you are not living your life. Instead, you are living from standards, priorities, and assumptions that do not reflect what you actually want to experience.

This is how both empowering and disempowering patterns are passed from generation to generation. Sometimes, these automatic, unexamined choices come from cultural influences, parental beliefs, peer influences, and past turning-point events that are assessed from a wounded, fear-based perspective.

The events that carry the most influence are those you experience with a strong emotional charge, and those ideas and experiences that are repetitive. Consider when a child or adult repeatedly tells herself that she doesn’t feel heard, or understood. Think about what gets created when a child or adult tells herself that she’s not safe. And what is the impact when a someone experiences an event that violates her emotional well-being or trust, and she is not yet able to understand or process it in an empowering way? These disempowering conclusions and turning-point events are when the armor goes up. And you know what that armor is! You experience its impact every time you encounter an emotional trigger, feel hurt, are self-critical, judge others, overgive, want to withdraw, or get defensive.

Yet, underneath this armor is the ...

fun-loving, happy being who knows that anything is possible, who’s in love with life in a physical body, who loves without limits or conditions.

This is the aspect of self that is buried behind the armor, behind the shield that went up. And it’s this defense mechanism that produces one’s emotional triggers. If we don’t learn how to become our powerful soul selves in a human body, then we will stay behind the shield making choices that we think “keeps us safe”.

But what the shield really does is keep you from fully living.

And so you live in limbo, feeling as the song goes, that “you don’t want to live like this, but you don’t want to die.” This feeling of dissatisfaction tells you there is something missing, and what is missing — is YOU.

To be a fulfilled, fully realized Self or Soul, one must choose from her own preferences, as the free and powerful spiritual being in a human body that she is.

This is when life’s magic comes back into your life …

when you start to question what you previously accepted as true … and when you are willing to love yourself enough to live an examined on-purpose life. This is why I am so committed to helping you live an on-purpose soul-led life. Because that’s why you came here into physical form, to fully experience life, to thrive, to have fun, and to experience life’s magic on planet earth!

And as you do, you are also called to grow. You do not have to suffer to evolve. You can grow gracefully inside love and well-being.

How Soul-Realized Are You?

7 Signs You're Choosing from Your Shield, Rather Than Your Soul:

1. You experience cycles of burnout and exhaustion from overgiving and overdoing. You have a hard time saying yes or no when you really want to.

2. You’re self critical, evaluate yourself harshly, or have a habit of making yourself or other people wrong.

3. You feel like you’re holding yourself back or hiding, and don’t feel free to fully express yourself in an area that matters to you.

4. You feel that life is hard, and want it to be easier than it is.

5. Your feelings are easily hurt and you have a tendency to withdraw, self-isolate, or blame others for how you feel. You may consider yourself sensitive and do not see that as the gift it truly is.

6. You question yourself a lot, and get caught in analysis paralysis. You’re afraid of making a mistake or making the wrong choice.

7. You feel like there’s something missing. You may be getting nudges to find deeper meaning or purpose, but you keep avoiding it for fear of losing what you think you’ve achieved.

HINT: The shield part of you will naturally do what it’s designed to do, protect and defend.

What it is defending, however, is most often a perspective that no longer serves you. Think of this as a hidden barrier. And what’s really beyond that shield, that need to defend … is beautiful, liberating, and powerful.

What’s behind the armor is the heart and soul of who YOU are.

And this aspect of YOU? She cannot be hurt. This part of YOU is the love, and that magic that puts more life into your life. It’s the stuff that dissolves the quiet numbing to reveal … a beautiful, on-purpose, wise and wonderful soul-led life.

What you are looking for is YOU.

It is my hope, that you answer the sacred call, to see the beauty of who YOU truly are, in all of your glory! May you own your brilliance, and shine your light proudly, authentically, and unapologetically. You can do so when you’re willing to release the defense mechanisms, the armor that keeps you from truly living as our authentic soul-realized selves.

Much Love,

Elari and the Magical, Loving Notes of the Universe

P.S. If you’re struggling in an area that matters to you, if you know you are meant for more, but don’t know how to powerfully move forward … please stop wasting your precious time waiting for something to change. The Truth — nothing will change until you do, until you see YOU. Go here to find out ahow tp take the next step. I’ll personally guide you step-by-beautiful-step, so you can discover deep purpose, mastery and bring life’s magic and MORE YOU out to play. Much love to you!

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Elari Onawa

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I’ve been leading Life On Purpose and Self-Discovery programs since 2003. Prior to that, I led large organizations for 20+ years, helping them align with their dreams and goals. And then I said yes and followed my soul’s promptings. If you’re ready for more fulfillment and joy, if you want to embrace more of your higher aspects, and connect with the loving support that is available for you … I can help you have that!